Friday, November 12, 2010
Submission Means No Lone-Rangering
What is my relationship with Christ? I ask him, "Lord, I'd like to do this." or "Lord, what do you think about this?" I try not to move out ahead of his leadership. If he says stop, I stop. He is the head of me. He is not the director of my every move. He isn't my puppeteer. But when he says stop, I stop immediately. He doesn't have 51% of the company and my vote basically doesn't count. And yet I willingly submit to him. It's NOT 50-50 between him and me. Sometimes he says something that doesn't make total sense to me, and I can say "I don't fully agree with that, but I trust that you have the right and best idea. I trust YOU."
What is my relationship with my Pastor? If he says jump, do I jump? It's not like that. And yet when he gives counsel, it would take MUCH weight on the other hand for me to disregard--I wouldn't disregard, try go against--his wisdom. And that's not because I think he's such a wise guy, either, though he may be very wise indeed. Because he is my pastor I am submitted to him. I am interdependent, rather than independent, within the context of church.
Having my wife submitted to me means that she never does lone ranger stuff. It doesn't mean that I have 51% of the decisions or "veto power" over her. When I am submitted to the Church or to Christ it means I am not lone rangering. If I love my wife (and I do!) then I won't be out there making decisions without my teammate, and if she's submitted to me it will look similar on her part. Submission is good when it's done right, but it's a topic that's easily twisted into evil.